How parents expectations affect child growth and development

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Parents expectations, child growth, and development

When parents expectations is too high it affects child growth and development. This is the fact but most of the parents do not think about it.  

Parents Expectations from Son

When children go to grades 10th or 12th, parents think that they are in the class and have to study all year. Even at the beginning of the year, it is decided how many marks would be earned (scored) by the child?

Some parents even begin to see the building of a child's hospital as soon as the 12th grade begins.

The mother is in a very bad condition because her child is in grades 10th or 12th. She is restricted to use mobiles, TV, social programs, and relatives are banned to come home for the whole year. Mother is planning a day-to-day schedule for her child and for herself.

A wise parent

But what a surprise it is that children's abilities are not taken into account in all these things. Some sensible parents who watch a few videos on YouTube, listening to or watching two or four career counseling programs have different emotions.

Such parents look very scared in their every move, not just in speaking but also in their question we clearly see the anxiety, doubts, and fears.  These things are bombarded on them in the Career Counseling program. They do not interfere in choosing a child’s career; they say "let him allow to choose his career, who will be responsible for some bad incident tomorrow?"

 Parents high expectations

Is it appropriate for parents to set expectations that are not up to the mark?

Also, children who have no experience in life, can they choose the best career?

How realistic is the information found on the Internet?

Once a career is out of hand, will there be a chance again?

Now you say parents are wrong kids too, so what is right?

Take guidance from a trained person or to attain career counseling seminars.

Testing Children's Tantrums

Reading various guide books. There are still many options available in the market.

But what a joke it is, you will not do anything for your children's career.

We are always expecting to get readymade. Due to this, the careers of those who sell facilities such as counseling seminars, mentorship, guidance books are set very well.

What is the quality of your career counselor?

What are its education and experience?

Is that person trustful or not?

Before that, we do not think whether this person has knowledge of that area or not. 

This is the kind of person who tells us the information he has heard from somewhere, and he himself has not checked whether this information is true.

Don't hit the head,

The truth of parents expectations

All is true; you know it but never thought of it. What is the proper method? Choosing a career in an area where you have an interest or a skill.

But just because you are interested does not work, because interest varies with time and circumstance. so choosing a career on the basis of the interest will not be appropriate.

The correct way is to select the field in which you have interest and skill. Maybe that's why we see that many non-graduate persons have gone to the top in their field.

It is worth remembering that, always better to be at the top in a field of less competition than to be an average person in a field where there is a lot of competition. Here, competition is what we call a field with scope, and less competition is a field with less scope.

So instead of spending time on what to do in a career, be sure to gain expertise in the field which is convenient for you. Here convenient means your ability, family background, financial conditions.

Work hard for four to six years of the degree, then you can spend the remaining fifty to sixty years of fun.

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Best time for child growth and development

When does a career start?

1) 10^th

2) 12^th

3) Degree

4) After graduation

Answer: - None of the above
The real mistake is here, the actual age to decide children's future is certainly at an early age. But parents are remembering this in 10^th or 12^th.

Now many parents say that they are paying attention to children's future since childhood.

But what do you mean by giving attention to a child?

Is it appointing a tutor for kids?

Giving them the toys they want? or by choosing a school that has a high fee.

No, you are avoiding your responsibility and only keep the children happy.

See, the important thing is, every person has a unique quality in which that person is 90- to 100% proficient. All questions can be solved if we can find out such a unique quality of our child.

Yes, but you have to change your expectations a little bit, you don't say that my child must become an engineer or doctor. We see movies like Tara Zameen par, 3 Idiot, but we remember only the jokes of it and forget the important message.

As an example,

My son reads Marathi from the time he was two and a half years old, without even stumbling. how is it possible? It's easy. I have a habit of reading the newspaper in the morning.

I remember he was two years old. when I am reading newspapers he sits in my lap, he pulls papers, looks at pictures on paper, asks a number of questions, gives a little trouble. But I am always answering his questions without resentment.

Slowly he began to put his finger on the line of the newspaper and began to imitate me.

At the same time, I brought him a Marathi alphabet (Barakhadi) book. This helped him to learn the Marathi language.

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Child Growth and Development Factors

Child growth and development generally depend upon parenting style. it is sometimes confusing to understand parenting style in such a case simply follow these tricks.

Life skills for children

Why make your child a puzzle block which fit in a particular place and a particular puzzle game.

From a childhood makes him perfect so that whatever field he goes in, his performance will be best.

Habituate them for self-study

Parents should take at least one hour of study every day. Don't force for study, if he is not interested in the study don't punish him. Don't watch TV or mobile when he is studying. Parents who do not have the time for children should make a lot of money, but do not expect the bright future of their children.

Be gentle with children

Don't let your social or family dispute get exposed before him. Avoid saying bad things about others. Don't talk or watch vulgar in his presence. give respect to elders in your home that will creat respect for you in his mind.

Don't irritated or annoyed him

It is never appropriate for a stubborn child to be punished; when The children hustle if you punish him then what is the difference between children and you. This is the age factor, he is 5 years and you are more than 30 years. Remember when you were 5 years old you also a naughty boy.

In any case, it is worthwhile to explain peacefully, experience this, and see that children will listen.

Keep promoting him constantly

From an early age, pay attention to everything he does, do something that he will win while playing with you, notify him that he is smart in his studies. Tell him repeatedly that he can do better.

Increase his practical knowledge

Take him along with you to the market; keep him with you when you are paying the bill. No matter how rich you are, let him know the value of money. Never discuss in front of children that you earn a lot.
Conclusion

And yes most important, your 10^th or 12^th marks are only important for the next admission, the whole life does not depend on it so don't get depressed even if you get low marks. Forget all that and get back to work.
In the 90% of cases parents expectations are limited up to  10^th or 12^th marks, after that they are not concern about child growth and development.